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"Men impose deception on women and punish them for being deceived, force them down to the lowest..."

Sun, 02 Jun 2013 11:10:28 -0400

““Men impose deception on women and punish them for being deceived, force them down to the lowest level and punish them for falling so low, bind them in marriage and then chastise them with menial service for life, or insults, or blows.””

- ― Nawal El Saadawi, Woman at Point Zero (via feministninja)

"They said, ‘You are a savage and dangerous woman.’ I am speaking the truth. And the truth is savage..."

Sun, 02 Jun 2013 11:10:07 -0400

“They said, ‘You are a savage and dangerous woman.’
I am speaking the truth. And the truth is savage and dangerous”

- Nawal El Saadawi, Woman at Point Zero” (via arleen-elena)

"Nothing is more perilous than truth in a world that lies."

Sun, 02 Jun 2013 11:08:55 -0400

“Nothing is more perilous than truth in a world that lies.”

- Nawal El Saadawi, Egyptian physician and author (via indizombie)

Video

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:49:04 -0400

“‘Nothing wrong when a song ends in the minor...

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:10:16 -0400

“‘Nothing wrong when a song ends in the minor key.’ Sixty-plus years of rock and roll songs about broken hearts and nobody thought of that line until just last year? Man.”

"When you have an abusive relationship with yourself, when you objectify yourself, you can actually..."

Thu, 23 May 2013 12:54:14 -0400

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When you have an abusive relationship with yourself, when you objectify yourself, you can actually become less aware of what you physically feel. You’re so focused on making your body do things and obey you that you start to tune out your genuine experience. For example: Are you angry? What is angry? How do you breathe when you’re angry? Some people say they stop breathing and harden themselves physically. For me, it’s a buzzing feeling, like I’ve had too much coffee, and there’s pressure right at the top of my chest. I don’t withdraw—I engage, often stupidly. “Going into angry” let me get the sense of all the physical energy that often kept me from walking away.

You can get into every emotion this way. An emotion changes you physically. It sets off chemical and physiological reactions, which you can perceive. Fear might feel cold, because your veins literally constrict to send more blood to your muscles. When you’re happy, or safe, your posture might change—you stand up straighter and your arms hang at your sides, leaving all the vulnerable baggage you carry near the front of your body, like your gut, open to attack—but when you feel guarded, you might drop your chest and hunch your shoulders, because evolution has taught you to perceive that creepy dude in gym class like he is a bear who might snack on your internal organs. Focusing on this stuff isn’t a distraction or a waste of time. It’s teaching you to perceive your experience instead of intellectualizing it. You can’t honestly say “I’m not angry” when you notice that reliable cramp in your jaw.

And it’s not a problem if you’re angry or sad or afraid. It’s just a fact. It’s an unpleasant fact, but so is gravity, because someone could conceivably drop a piano on your head and kill you. You are an intelligent person who knows that ignoring facts doesn’t change them, so there’s no point in ignoring or denying pain, either. But it’s not just about the bad stuff—you can be more mindful of pleasure, too. You can go for a walk in the sun and try to experience every moment of it hitting your skin.

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- Sady, You Are Some Body

"The imagination, the mind’s eye, will do that for you, run the whole play back, dress it up even,..."

Mon, 20 May 2013 09:02:18 -0400

“The imagination, the mind’s eye, will do that for you, run the whole play back, dress it up even, because it will give you the dirt off the hitter’s spikes as he cuts the first-base bag at the same time you see the center fielder stretch for the ball and lose his balance for just a split second, then plant his right foot to throw—two things you really couldn’t see at once. You’d have to decide what you’d watch as the play was developing. Easy enough if you were there to scout one player or the other, but otherwise something you learn only after you’ve seen a lot of games: how to pick your pleasure.”

- Bill Littlefield, from Prospect (p.206)

"Claire Boucher: The sports world is so different from what we normally engage with, so it was like..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 22:21:31 -0400

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Claire Boucher: The sports world is so different from what we normally engage with, so it was like this voyeuristic look into a really violent community. Art gives me an outlet where I can be aggressive in a world where I usually can’t be, and part of it was asserting this abstract female power in these male-dominated arenas— the video is somewhat about objectifying men. Not in a disrespectful way, though.

Emily Kai Bock: It’s about the gladiator archetype and how boys are predisposed to that as a universal role model, which always seemed silly to me. Girls don’t have the same pressure to measure up that way, but they have different pressures. I really like the metaphor of Claire entering these typically-male territories and being like, “What’s up, I’m here to sing my song.” In a way, it represents how it feels as a girl in the film and music worlds, because we sometimes get a sense of not being taken as seriously.

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- Grimes: “Oblivion” Claire Boucher and Emily Kai Bock talk about their dreamy, subversive video.

Photo

Tue, 14 May 2013 19:06:41 -0400

Via Tightrope Books.

Fri, 03 May 2013 14:12:03 -0400

Via Tightrope Books.

"…I have no guilt. I seek pleasure. I seek the nerves under your skin. The narrow archway; the..."

Fri, 03 May 2013 09:43:53 -0400

““…I have no guilt. I seek pleasure. I seek the nerves under your skin. The narrow archway; the layers; the scroll of ancient letters. We worship the flaw, the belly, the belly, the mole on the belly of an exquisite whore. He spared the child and spoiled the rod. I have not sold myself to God.””

- Patti Smith, Babelogue

"Here’s the truth of it: the game makes sense. Down there on the field we know just what’s at stake,..."

Wed, 01 May 2013 12:48:58 -0400

“Here’s the truth of it: the game makes sense. Down there on the field we know just what’s at stake, it’s some cleaner, truer expression of ourselves. It’s something to make the hair on our arms stand up, something to hold dear and pass along and worry over. But here’s the rest of that truth: it promises more torment and frustration than most of us would willingly invite into our lives. It requires loss, and pain, and heartbreak. It is not easy, not if you’re doing it right.”

- Andrew Forbes, Home.

"The recent Boston Marathon bombing reinforced the notion that I shouldn’t wait for the..."

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 11:34:34 -0400

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The recent Boston Marathon bombing reinforced the notion that I shouldn’t wait for the circumstances of my coming out to be perfect. Things can change in an instant, so why not live truthfully? When I told Joe a few weeks ago that I was gay, he was grateful that I trusted him. He asked me to join him in 2013. We’ll be marching on June 8.

No one wants to live in fear. I’ve always been scared of saying the wrong thing. I don’t sleep well. I never have. But each time I tell another person, I feel stronger and sleep a little more soundly. It takes an enormous amount of energy to guard such a big secret. I’ve endured years of misery and gone to enormous lengths to live a lie. I was certain that my world would fall apart if anyone knew. And yet when I acknowledged my sexuality I felt whole for the first time. I still had the same sense of humor, I still had the same mannerisms and my friends still had my back.

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- “Why NBA center Jason Collins is coming out now,” Sports Illustrated.

"Look. Here’s what this silly joke article means. Marriage for marriage’s sake isn’t how people..."

Thu, 25 Apr 2013 15:36:31 -0400

“Look. Here’s what this silly joke article means. Marriage for marriage’s sake isn’t how people become happy. Married you will be no happier than single you. Changing your own unhealthy impulses, for the sake of marriage as an end in itself, is not a healthy impulse. There are no “types” of people that “men” or “women” want to marry, and there’s no listicle that’s going to heal your loneliness. There are people and then there are other people and sometimes people fall in love with each other despite their faults and they get married or they don’t and it works out or it doesn’t. So work on yourself, fine—work on your bee beard, work on your clinginess—but do it because it’s good for you. Making marriage your goal (instead of, say, happiness! Or compatibility!) is like saving up all your money to buy a really expensive lottery ticket. Quit it.”

- 10 Types of Men That Women Definitely Do NOT Want to Marry! (via gruntledandhinged)

Photo

Thu, 25 Apr 2013 15:32:55 -0400

G R I M E S: I don't want to have to compromise my morals in order to make a living

Wed, 24 Apr 2013 10:24:14 -0400

G R I M E S: I don't want to have to compromise my morals in order to make a living :

actuallygrimes:

i dont want my words to be taken out of context

i dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized

i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction

i dont want to live in a world where…

"That’s baseball, man. We’re missing some guys, but we can’t make excuses. We’re facing good..."

Sun, 14 Apr 2013 14:07:19 -0400

“That’s baseball, man. We’re missing some guys, but we can’t make excuses. We’re facing good pitching, but we can do a better job at the plate. It’s a long season, though. What do we have, about 150 games left?”

- Rickie Weeks (via mightyflynn)

"The problem with feminism—and I say this as a feminist—is that it sometimes obscures the humane...."

Sun, 14 Apr 2013 11:46:36 -0400

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The problem with feminism—and I say this as a feminist—is that it sometimes obscures the humane. Things people live through become jargon, ferreting out sexism becomes an end in itself (like it’s that hard to find), and people forget that women who suffer are people who suffer because they’re women (among other reasons). You can lose the big picture and forget that rape is not Exhibit A for Why Feminism’s Still Relevant but a thing that people live through, as well as a manifestation of human evil.

It’s not social media’s fault that Rehtaeh Parsons is dead. The neighbourhood Tim Hortons is a social medium; the parking lot is a social medium. Her death is not the result of “bullying,” conceived as some kind of social scourge that can be exterminated. Rape is a feminist issue, rape culture is a feminist issue, victim-shaming is a feminist issue, but feminism is a humanism. Rehtaeh was human, and she was horrifically dehumanized, and now she’s dead. That’s one thing I’ve been thinking about this week.

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- Alex Molotkow, Senior Editor at Hazlitt

"I do not question the right of the writer to engage in debate on public matters, to make common..."

Sat, 13 Apr 2013 12:39:30 -0400

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I do not question the right of the writer to engage in debate on public matters, to make common cause and practice solidarity with like-minded others.

Nor is my point that such activity takes the writer far from the reclusive, eccentric inner place where literature is made. So do almost all the other activities that make up having a life.

But it’s one thing to volunteer, stirred by the imperatives of conscience or of interest, to engage in public debate and public action. It’s another to produce opinions—moralistic sound-bites—on demand.

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- Susan Sontag, “The Conscience of Words” (via michelledean)

October 2013

Sat, 13 Apr 2013 12:19:55 -0400

October 2013